4 Tips For Overcoming Shyness

Shyness; almost everyone has been a victim of it at one point or another. Research has shown that men go through more of it that women do. On a subtle level, the shy person is an introvert and a little reserved. On the more drastic level, why people a constant feeling of insecurity and fear around other people that is so overwhelming they often stay home and avoid the social scene altogether.

What is the cause of shyness? For a lot of people, shyness is a result of what happened to them in the past. As children, they may have felt rejected and criticized by their peers or their family. Their parents may have taught them not to be assertive or too aggressive. These kinds of behaviors are carried on in their adult life and turned into insecurity or fear of being judged by other people.

For some people, shyness is inherited. They are born with what is called "stranger anxiety" which is caused in part by chemical imbalance in the brain. Researchers also found what is called "switching center" in the brain that results in stimulating fear and withdrawal reactions.

Whether your shyness is instilled or inherited, you don't have to live with it. By increasing your level of confidence, you can overcome your shyness and live a more carefree life.

Here are some tips to help conquer your shyness.

1. Remember that overcoming shyness starts with building up your self confidence. Consider yourself as your own biggest fan, not your worst critic.

2. Act the way you want to be and feel. Try this exercise in the privacy of your home. Stand up straight, chin up, puff out your chest and raise your voice as you walk around the room. Practicing this helps you get rid of hidden anxiety, awkwardness, and embarrassment. After doing this exercise, you will feel more refreshed and rejuvenated.

3. Try affirmations. Tell yourself that you are a worthwhile person and that you deserve the best of what life has to offer. Do this everyday at least twice a day. I find that the best times to do affirmations are first thing in the morning and before you go to bed at night.

4. Try and figure out why you are shy. What are your fears and insecurities? You may realize that other people don't see what we call our imperfections the way we do.

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